Hands Behind Head

A rear view of a person in a white body suit with their hands tied together behind their head and connected to a rope that runs around their waist.

This position works particularly well for dominance and submission. It’s also a good way to keep your partner’s arms out of the way for tickling or chest play.

This is a very versatile position: by changing the position of the hands and the anchor point, you can adapt it to almost any body or play style.

SAFETY NOTE: To avoid an embarrassing ER visit, don’t try to walk while your hands are tied.

Step by step

Two wrists tied together but separated by a six inch long bar tie consisting of rope wound around itself.

1Tie your partner’s wrists together in front of their body with a bar tie.

A rear view of a person with their hands tied behind the head. The wrists are tied together with a bar tie that separates them by six inches.

2Place the hands behind the head.

A rear view of a person with their hands tied behind the head by a blue bar tie that separates them by six inches. A green rope has been attached to the bar tie with a larks head, with the tail of the rope going down the body.

3Attach a new rope using a lark’s head.

A rear view of a person. A green rope enters the frame in the upper back and goes down their body. Below the buttocks it turns right and goes all the way around the body, making a tight wrap that is held in place by the buttocks. When it gets back to the starting point, it makes a half hitch around itself.

4Run the rope to just below the butt and tie a ladder rung. Make sure it’s snug against the butt so it won’t slip.

Ideas and variations

A green rope comes between a person’s legs and up their crotch to their waist. The rope turns to the right and goes all the way around the waist. When it gets back to the right hand turn, it crosses under itself and makes a half hitch knot.

Add a crotch rope

You can use a crotch rope instead of going under the butt. Bring the rope down the back and between the legs, then tie a ladder rung around the waist.

You can adjust the sensation of the crotch rope by splitting the rope to pass on either side of the genitals or by tying knots in it, depending on your inclination.

A closeup rear view of a person with their hands tied behind their back by a blue bar tie. A green rope has been attached to the bar tie with a larks head and goes down the body and out of frame. A frapped single column tie has been tied around each arm, binding the upper and lower arms together.

Make it more secure

If your partner likes to wriggle, they may be able to slip their arms over their head. Placing a frapped column tie over each arm can help with this vexing problem.

If your partner can’t comfortably place their hands behind their head, you can place them in front. This is a great place to use the ladder rung: experiment and have fun!

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